They say it’s better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I finally agree with that, but not because I got to have the experience of loving someone. I think it’s “better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all” because of the lessons learned as a part of the grieving process.
Like, for instance, that God is merciful. And that sometimes the best blessing He can give you is a prayer answered with, “No. Because I love you.”
Although my ex is the one who called off our engagement, here are Five Quotes from our tumultuous engagement period that remind me, one year after the implosion that was our disastrous relationship, that I am the one who escaped from what would have been a very unhappy, very unhealthy marriage.
5. Him: “I want to marry a more emotional woman.”
4. Me: “I feel like I’m having to choose between pleasing God and pleasing you.”
3. Him: “You’re so Type A, I think you’d drive me to have an affair if we got married.”
2. Him: “My sister feels like I’m replacing her in my life with you, so we should push back the wedding until she feels more comfortable.”
1. Him: “I’m afraid we would have too much sex if we got married.”