Christians. Church people. Jesus followers. Please stop claiming promises that God never made to you!
Many of us have gotten in the very bad habit of telling ourselves that because God CAN do something, He WILL do that thing if we pray and ask for it. This is a lie. Yes, God is omniscient and omnipotent, but just because He has the power to do something does not mean that He will.
Just because God can heal your illness does not mean that he will do so. God may be brought more glory through your sickness than your healing, and you may become a more sanctified version of yourself by walking through prolonged illness. Have we forgotten that God cares more about the state of our eternal souls than our temporal, physical bodies?
Just because He can bring your future husband into your life this very week does not mean that He will. Your future husband may not be ready for marriage, and you may not be, either. It’s possible that it is for your greater good (and God’s greater glory) for you to continue waiting. Have we forgotten that God’s ways are higher than ours? He sees the bigger picture and has our best in mind.
Monday night was my first evening of Women’s Discipleship at my church. I love my church – the pastor, the worship band, the kids’ ministry… we have great people and sweet, Spirit-filled time together on Sundays. But I tend not to be a fan of women’s ministry events because they tend to be such Estrogen-Fests. And an Estrogen-Fest it was.
Once we made it through the touchy-feely, emotion-packed first lesson, the twenty or so women in our group partnered off for a time of prayer. I ended up coupled with Kristie, the leader of not only our small group but Women’s Discipleship as a whole at our church. Unsure what to expect from her, I was stunned when she shared her prayer request:
“Will you pray for an increase in the measure of my faith? That I would not just believe that God can do anything but that He will? I want to pray and believe He will do what I have asked of Him. When I ask Him to provide a job for my mom, I want to believe that He will and not just that He can.”
Although I wanted to be kind and encouraging to Kristie, I disagreed with the premise of her prayer request at a theological level. And she is the head of our women’s ministry. She is the one who is teaching over sixty women at our church for the next eight months. And I am concerned that she is going to spread her unfounded doctrine and poor theology.
Disturbed, I simply prayed for an increase in the amount of Kristie’s faith. After all, that part was biblical. Jesus is the author and perfecter of our faith (Heb. 12:2), and it is certainly acceptable to pray for God to increase our faith (Mark 9:24). But I have noticed that in our church – and Kristie’s request aligned with this – several individuals in leadership skew toward a level of “charismatic” that is not biblically sound. And I was about to be faced with another example.
As soon as Kristie and I had finished praying, one of the women in our group announced that she had just been diagnosed with breast cancer. She’s a pretty young thing – late 30s I would guess – and asked for prayers of healing. I was getting ready to pray that, if God willed it, He would heal her completely, but before I could start, Evangeline – the head of our prayer ministry at our church – jumped up and declared in a loud, authoritative voice, “Girl, we are not just going to ask God to heal you. We are CLAIMING healing over you. We believe not just that God can heal you, but that He WILL. We declare it! We speak healing over you!”
Eyes wide, I silently prayed for God’s will to be done. Whether He wanted to heal her or not, I prayed for peace and supernatural joy regardless of her circumstances. And then I went home and prayed for our church. Because our leadership has got it wrong.
These women in Discipleship are supposed to be older, wiser women who are meant to mentor the younger women in their faith. But they are clearly tossed around by their emotions and not grounded in the truth. God is not a genie, granting every wish of people who pray to Him. He is not a puppet god who moves in whichever way we want if we pull the right string. They need to stop claiming promises that God never made to them. Stop telling people they will be healed if they just pray hard enough and believe God is going to do it.
God’s ways are higher than ours (Isa. 55:8-9). Many are the plans in the heart of a man, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails (Prov. 19:21). Yes, if we pray anything in God’s will, we have what we have asked of him, but let us not forget the “in His will” (1 John 5:14). Sometimes God says no, and it’s not because of a lack of faith on the part of the supplicant. Have we forgotten that Jesus taught us to pray, “Thy will be done”? (Matt. 6:10) Have we forgotten the example of Jesus at Gethsemane?! Pretty sure Jesus had the faith to move mountains, and he still received a “no” from the Father.
Sometimes we do not receive what we desire because we do not ask (James 4:3), so by all means, ASK! But remember that God is not obligated to respond with “Yes”. And He is worthy of our praise no matter what He answers.
As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are Your ways higher than ours.
That was awesome! And so right! That verse is soooo often used to mean something it is not. Great job Aurora! =)
Thanks, Dan. Appreciate your stopping by to read and comment!
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You’re welcome. I will certainly be back. =)
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Aurora, this is very well stated. I can understand your reluctance to speak up in the company of women who are supposed to be mentoring you, but I wish someone would call their attention to what you are saying here.
And you might warn Kristie that one of the ways God increases faith is by putting a person in a situation where he or she has no option other than trusting God. Been there, done that. J.
Thanks, J. I think I will keep attending and look for the right opportunity to say something. Appreciate your encouragement in an otherwise discouraging situation.
Sigh. You speak to what is so often on my heart! Estrogen-fests, I hear you, good grief, what in the world is that even all about? If I never see another Adult Coloring Group for Jesus again, I will die happy. Feelings, nothing more than feelings…
And now I shall wisely duct tape my mouth shut before I say something I may regret. 🙂
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Haha… I am glad to find another godly woman who can commiserate! Emotions can be wonderful and beautiful things, but it’s good to also bring some Thinking into all of our Feeling 😉
Duct tape… you are a wise woman!
This is a real good example of rightly dividing the word of truth. God is not our butler; heck we don’t give our children whatever they ask for either. Big word there ‘God’s will,’ and it’s a sensitive issue when we are among others (as you write here) who do not necessarily understand the bigger picture.
And yet how people have been told ‘you do not have enough faith………….’ on and on. Well written and thought out here A.
A person does not come up with this understanding overnight.
I’m reminded of Joni E. Tada, who pretty much said she would never have experienced such a rich Christian life and closeness to the Lord without…………her confined wheelchair. Humbling. And her faith is pretty big.
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