Resigned & Ecstatic (Part 1)

Victorious Business Woman

My first act as a 30-year-old was to quit my job.

That makes it sound like a knee-jerk reaction to hitting a life milestone, but giving my two weeks’ notice to the company where I’ve spent the past eight years was a long time in coming. Very nearly eight years in coming.

My boss and I have had a strained relationship, to put it mildly. One of my colleagues commented recently, “In the two years we’ve worked for her, I don’t think I’ve ever heard her say a single kind or encouraging word to you.” Reflecting back over my time on this team, I was surprised to realize that was true. I have never been praised or even thanked for anything I have done in two years; every comment is laced with criticism and negativity.

Despite that, I decided to make a concerted effort to be gracious and respectful during my resignation. My boss was on vacation the entire week of Spring Break, so I could have easily resigned while she was out, sending her a curt email or just leaving a signed resignation letter on her desk. But I waited until she was back in the office on Monday, and I asked her if she had time to grab a conference room to discuss my career.

Once alone with my boss, I stated simply that I had decided to resign from the company. “I’m giving my two weeks’ notice effective immediately, with my last day in the office being April 3rd.” Although I didn’t have to do so, I went on, “I really hope you find a great replacement for me – someone who is passionate about this work and brings subject matter expertise to the role. And I wish you all the best in the future.”

I was proud of myself for the upright way I handled an exchange where I could have been mean and bitter or scornful and gloating. I rose above the situation, and I counted that as a victory, especially considering the number of times I fantasized about storming out of the office and telling her off.

When I finished speaking, instead of thanking me for my service, or asking if there was anything she could do to keep me, or to ask what I’m doing next, or to ask how she could have been a better boss, or even to simply wish me well in the future, all she said – in her typical abrasive manner – was, “Two weeks isn’t enough time to transition someone. I won’t even have the job posting up by the time you leave. This isn’t enough time. You are really inconveniencing me by leaving the company with only two weeks’ notice.”

How dare she. Two weeks is standard – and I didn’t legally even have to give that much notice! All she could focus on was how I was inconveniencing her by leaving the company. For an instant, I was filled with anger; then – just as quickly – the anger dissipated into amusement. How typical. How expected. What a confirmation that I am, in fact, making the right choice!

When I spoke with my dad about it later, he echoed what I myself had thought. “Aurora, if she had responded in any other way – saying she was sorry to see you go or thanking you for your service – you might have felt torn or even second-guessed your decision. But she has given you the blessing of knowing that, without a doubt, you made the right decision.”

I certainly did. I already feel the weight lifting from my shoulders. Thirty is off to a great start!

Authentically Aurora

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14 thoughts on “Resigned & Ecstatic (Part 1)

    • Thanks, Ben. She was a pretty awful boss. I kept thinking about Solomon and how he didn’t finish well… and although I wanted to give my boss what I think she deserves, I ultimately wanted to finish well and keep my witness and character intact!

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      • Yep, I was super tempted to do that, but then my wife told me to walk away with my head held high and walk the high road. I think it has helped for recommendations for job searching. Hopefully you won’t have to use her for a recommendation for new jobs.

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  1. Good for you. Professional in every manner.

    But it does sound like your boss all of a sudden realized how valuable you were……..and still could not muster a ‘well wish.’

    All the best in your next pages of lifes book.

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    • on a better note… WOOHOOOOOO! Good for you! I am also trying to transition out of my current role, and just the excitement it brings me hearing that you just did it is…. like that feeling after your last final is done LOL.

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    • MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      Also: I’m excited that you are also thinking about a new adventure! I hope everything works out great for you. New seasons can be scary, but as far as I’m concerned, WELL WORTH IT!

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